How To Use It
Asking good questions and listening well are skills that improve with practice. If Gregston convinces you of the value of questions, commit to asking and listening more this week - and perhaps talking less.
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Ask follow-up questions as well! Remember, you're trying to draw out what's in their heart, and that may take more than one question.
Ease into it and be patient. If the teen is not used to you asking questions and listening well, it may take time to build enough trust for them to open up. Don't quit after one awkward failed attempt!
Finally, Gregston gives a good reminder. "My hope is to build a relationship with teens that promotes interaction and communication that will last for years. And as a result I know that I will have plenty of times to revisit comments, ask more questions, dig a little deeper, and be a part of their development. In other words, I don't have to fix everything in one sitting, and it's not essential to get the right answer each time."
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